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I have three rules that I live my life by.. Boundaries that I set long ago. The first two are for everyone that crosses my path. The latter is for someone I love, for that is the only way that I will enter into a sexual relationship. I don't need sex.. I need love..
First is do not lie to me about anything of any importance.
- I define importance as that being where the result would cause pain of any kind, when the truth is revealed and it always is.
- I will lie to you about what is under the Christmas tree or in that package that you are dying to open days before your birthday. I will lie in the commission of a practical joke, and I love to pull practical jokes
- But if it is a lie of deceit, to hurt me , to not hurt me, or to just lie – and I find out. I am gone. Not much time left here compared to the entire amount I had. I choose to not spend one minute of it wondering if someone is telling me ½ truths. I will just cut them out of my world no matter what their position to my heart. And omission is just as good as a lie.
Second. I will listen to anything you have to say - I respect your opinion. And I appreciate well intended criticism. Remember that I, as you, have the right to do whatever I please with the information. Do not nag or keep at me about anything. I will not change for you, maybe because of you but not for you. If you understand this you might also understand why I do walk away from some friends. It is called loving unconditionally. I expect what I give. Conversely what you do with what I say is your decision. Ignore it, consider ramblings of a mad man, take it to heart---- what ever -- I am just saying what I am feeling or seeing at the second. I expect you to do nothing because of anything I say..
Finally. My relationships when sexual are monogamous. If you must exercise your loins with another, respect me enough to leave me first.